Vedic Dharma and the Grhastha-ashrama

A pure devotee is never agitated, kama krsnarpane, because he is completely engaged in the loving service of Krsna. He does not have the urge of lust.

Haridas Thakura had developed krsna-prema and was engaged in giving pleasure to the senses of Krsna. He did not have the urge to satisfy his own senses; there was no kama, lust. Only someone of the stature of Haridas Thakura can tolerate this urge. Mayadevi herself came to test Haridas Thakura, but instead admitted defeat. The prostitute’s consciousness changed, and she became his disciple. She took initiation, started chanting and became a Vaisnavi.

Kama will be Transformed into Prema

Niraparadhe nama laile paya krsna-dhana–if you chant the pure name without any offence, you will definitely develop krsna-prema, and you will be able to tolerate the sexual urge. Therefore, we are giving training on how to develop pure Krsna consciousness, krsna-prema, by chanting the pure name offencelessly. Thereby the urge for sex will go and kama will be transformed into prema.

It is advised to become lusty like the gopis. There is no question of lust at all in them, because they have pure love. There is no sexual intercourse in Krsna’s lila with the gopis. It is not a kama-lila. It is not based on lust, but based on love (prema). They are all engaged in giving pleasure to the senses of Krsna, they do not even have a tinge of desire to give pleasure to their own senses.

How can we give pleasure to Krsna? Let Krsna enjoy us, He is the enjoyer and we are to be enjoyed. Therefore, the gopis decorate themselves nicely, wear nice saris and ornaments, and while standing in front of the mirror looking at their beautiful, bright smiling faces, they comb their hair nicely.

Everything will be pleasing to Krsna. They only want to give all pleasure to the senses of Krsna. This is prema. When you develop krsna-prema, lust is transformed into love–kama krsnarapane–and then you will be able to tolerate the urge for sex, otherwise you cannot tolerate it.